Waiting4her

My name is John. I live in Inwood WV but work in Montgomery County.

I am compassionate, passionate, cuddle loving Sensualists. My pleasure comes from your pleasures. Period. I love the possibilities of feeling intimacy with a partner whether we engage once or a regular basis. I have enjoyed nearly ten years with my interest as I was separated a good bit of that time. Many wonderful, beautiful people

I’m currently not looking for a permanent domestic partner. I travel a good bit and I went through a divorce a few years back that left me stunned after a 40 year marriage. My wife of that relationship would like to revisit us uniting again. But that is not in the cards, ever. I will remain friendly and supportive, but don’t want the day to day issues that relationships bring.

I’m enjoying the solace of being single, a new house, a dog, and a couple of cats. The option of being fluid is very enjoyable. Going to my local watering holes for an evening of conversation can lead to an unsolicited encounter. Travel allows me to visit the local fetish scene and participate…making new friends along the way.

A kink for me, not by far in every situation or encounter, is age players from very little to young age. I never expect play to go in this realm. This is not a ped o phelic sexual interest, but love the feeling of complete trust, allowing for vulnerability and dependency, and being able to take care of someone even if it’s just for a short time. Nothing more. Former play partners have really played the role well and I really have enjoyed it in the right circumstances.

Race is not an issue and I love all ethnicities. I have been in both partner and romantic relationships predominantly with African American women. I have enjoyed their passion, extreme beauty, and company. I actually entered a relationship a couple of years ago that would have taken me to a longterm relationship. She was beautiful, passionate, had her shit together…. If personal situation would have not changed, I would have committed to my last relationship in this life.

I identify as Christian. I don’t care about your religion or lack there of. This country was founded on religious freedom, not Christianity as the right will try to convince you. I believe that as long as you follow the basic premise of any religion (except extremism). Love everyone, help those who need it the most, and believe that there is an afterlife that you must earn. I believe that Muslim, Jewish, etc will all be in the afterlife.

Kinky loves? Feeling your soft panties (please no thongs - your ass is probably amazing, but i love removing layers of a present.🤭), soft ladies regardless of size, seeing whats under your street cloths, providing oral and masterbation, first encounters, spontaneity.

Please understand that I identify as a liberal. Fiscal responsible, but inclusive, safety nest supportive, and centralizing certain things that should be available to all, not just the privileged. Tattoos and piercings (ears.). Obtained late in life as i always was expected to conform with norms through family and chosen professions all of my adult life. Tattoos are of things important and dear to me and my life experiences. Don’t support the conservative right’s positions if they even still have any. I’m a government and political junkie as it was a big part of my life. If that’s not your thing I understand and it’s by far not a deal breaker.

In full disclosure I utilize edible as medicine (at least most of the time 😂). I developed the autoimmune disease sarcoidosis in 2005 while I was a firefighter/paramedic. It has affected multiple organs and i control it the an immune suppression n therapy including Chemotherapy drugs. Thus the edibles to control nausea and some PTSD. If there is a bright light in this situation, the disease affected my penis. In 2015, I received a permanent penis pump. So unlike erectile drugs, I can immediately become hard and stay that way indefinitely. A little less sensitive then the pre condition, but fully functional in all regards.

Vasectomy at a young age. Hard drug free and disease free. Test when I’m active. No problems with condoms for your protection or for discretion of not needing evidence when going home.

I don’t ask about your personal situation or your reasons for playing as long as there is no drama with our encounter(s). If i satisfy your sexual desire, release you from the daily grind or need for affection, so be it. If you just want a friend, you have emotional/mental concerns that you feel you can’t overcome on your own, or feeling that life is not worth anymore, contact me. Please! I’m trained in mental health issues and peer support. I’ve also experienced those feelings myself.

I identify as straight, but heteroflexible. I have a great time going to drag shows and gay bars with gay friends. Yes, i kissed a boy (in full dress that looked like a beautiful woman) and I liked it. Have zero interest in hairy, manly men at all as it’s just not my thing. Zero attraction. Even cross dressers that look like men with ladies cloths on and painted faces just don’t do it for me. All ok as friends, but you want to get me excited? Get rid of that damn leg hair, smooth out those armpits and arm hair and five o’clock shadow for starters. You do you and have fun doing it, but I love the look of a beautiful woman as a sex partner. Don’t really care what’s between your legs.

I love good bourbon, vodka with club soda, good microbrew beers. Good seafood will make me 🍆💦. 😂

Nonsmoker, typically not a heavy drinker, and prefer to play sober or after a couple of drinks. If you need to get drunk to have sex with me, I’m just not the person you can be attracted to.

Can’t stand:

*Hitting or beating - 20 years as a firefighter/paramedic caused PTSD. Seen to much of this. Ass slapping is fine.
*Animal play. Just don’t get it.
*No notches on the headboard. I like some sort of relationship. Have had one nighters or back of truck encounters. Ok if it;’s in the heat of the moment, but tend to leave me empty.
Anything dealing with under age, degradation, bullying.( Don’t mind legal age who plays younger)
Impact play.
Ropes, although I’d be good at it. I was a firefighter.😳🙄🤣
Domination or being dominated. Will not play a dominant role.
Causing you real pain.
Fire play and hot wax. I’ve been burned before a few times. No thanks
Haters, those who claim religion (especially Christianity), But demonstrate bigotry, racism, and Christian nationalism.

Anything from the Trump family. Not because he now says he’s a conservative republican after years of being a democrat, but because he has always been a conman grifter who wants nothing good for anyone but himself. He’s dangerous, Antichrist like actions and followers (if not the real thing) and his only motive is power, title, what he can take from the position. And now using the highest office to protect his ass from criminal conviction. If you want to buy his golden tennis shoes or a MAGA bible have at it.

Some other fetishes, but they are just that. Not everything in this warped mind get’s acted on. 🤔😂

It’s liberating to finally update my profile to really match who I am and what I have evolved to. No longer the playful pussy hound looking four a hookup. I want to provide value in the lives I touch. Whether a simple satisfaction to unmeant needs, someone who wants to find new experiences together, a safe place to explore and be satisfied, or simply someone that needs a friend. That’s who I want to be.

Talk to me! Let’s grab lunch or a beverage.